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The thank you lifestyle: how to meet man’s greatest need.

Okay so we wanted to talk about the thing that made daddy give more money right?

I remember that vividly but before we continue, let me ask you, how many times did you say Thanks to someone today?

Well, as for me, i can’t remember. It was more than five times i guess.

And part of those times, i felt really crazy thanking folks for things that didn’t really merit any real thanks.

And then one of those folks, a guy that helped me with his charger acted like i was wasting my time. But i still thanked him and moved on anyway.

Ok so back to our story.

The thing that makes people tend to do more favors to you when you appreciate the initial favour is called the law of reciprocity. This law makes folks compelled to do more for you even when you didn’t ask for it.

You know generally, people say: what we appreciate appreciates.

On a good day, thankfulness changes your perception to focus on abundance. And since our minds attracts and enlarges most of the things we focus on, your mind tends to attract the “abundance vibes” you send out.

This process enables the mind to create more of such thought patterns.

Again that’s not our focus for this post. Our focus is to learn how to use the thank you lifestyle to meet man’s greatest need. But i had to dive in there a bit so we can understand something.

The reason my dad added more money to me after thanking him is because he was impressed. That’s all.

Again, I want to reemphasize something I’ve already said.

The only way you can influence someone is to allow yourself be influenced by the things that matters to them.

That’s why if you’re a a marketer seeking to make great sales for instance, you’ll have to first of all, learn how to bond with a new client in a way that will make him respond more positively to your pitch. You’ll want to find a common ground first.

Finding a common ground means you look for what he likes which you have some good knowledge about, strike some conversation from there.

Done successfully, making his topic of interest influence your marketing, you develop some fondness with him.

He suddenly begins to see you as someone with shared interest. Then you guys develop some form of trust. And research confirms that folks will listen to people they trust more easily.

Done well, this waters the ground for you in an exceptional way. And then you can plant your marketing sales. Knowing fully well that you’re building on an existing relationship.

Okay. Enough of this talk biko.

So like i said earlier, saying ordinary words like “thank you” helps people feel appreciated.

And when people feel appreciated, it gives them a sense of self importance. And you must understand that everyone wants to feel important.

That’s the exact reason why folks steal to get rich. That’s the reason people live fake lives on the internet. That’s also the reason you’re reading this.

Because you want to know, so that perhaps you teach others or use it in a way that will make you look smart, outstanding and important.

We’re driven by the need to be Valued, Wanted, Loved and Appreciated. This desire knows no gender

And whenever we say thank you to someone, that’s exactly what their brain is shouting back at them: You’re loved. You’re appreciated. You’re wanted.

You can always influence people if only you will make them feel special.

You can create great and lasting relationships if you’ll show people how much more their presence or actions mean to you.

You can gain a whole lot if only you will first learn how to meet man’s greatest needs, the need to be valued. Instead of waiting to have yours fulfilled first.

Let me stop here before i finish everything mbok.

We’ll continue from the scientific aspects of thank you tomorrow.

Blessings.

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How to really influence people

I feel like i should be talking about how to get to really influence people through out this week in this #21day bloggingexperience. So let’s see how far we can go with that.

Alright. I’m going to use my own lessons  and that of a few others throughout this episode1.

 

I was traveling from Lagos to Uyo. We stopped at one restaurant to eat along the road.

At one corner of the restaurant, some guys were selling grilled meat or what we call suya here.

As i made to get some apple fruits, one of those guys offered me a free bite of the hot tasty meat.

I smiled at him. He was like, take na, it’s free. Just taste it. I refused to collect the meat. I was not ready for it. But I decided to buy some instead.

when i got into the car, i began to wonder why I bought the meat. It wasn’t making as much sense as i expected. It wasn’t even satisfactory. I hardly buy meat like that while on a journey. but i bought it that day Because i liked how the guy presented it to me.

So today, I decided to share this experience with you today so i can teach you at least just one lesson.

It’s much easier to influence people if you allow them to first of all influence you instead of going out to influence them directly. I call this, the ice breaking strategy.

This is how it works. You get to know the person. Make him like you. After that he’ll give you permission to influence him.

Remember you can only make people like you only if they believe you’re worth being liked.

So instead of going to ask people to buy from you, present them a free version of your irresistible offer.

Instead of going to speak to convince people in far away congo to buy your digital camera, learn their native language, go and meet them,  take pictures of them in your camera. Tell them in their language how they can create exactly keep creating the same experience in exactly the same way you did, all the time.

You can easily influence people if only you’ll be selfless enough to allow yourself be influenced by them. This works both scientifically and theoretically.

We’ll continue from here tomorrow. Have a winning evening.

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